Saturday, December 12, 2009


I've been a host for almost 3 years now, I've hosted company parties, corporate events, parties, debuts, weddings, birthday parties, kiddie parties, school fairs, concerts etc. But nothing could have prepared me for the hosting that I had yesterday.

I hosted a eulogy for my friend's uncle who I got to hang out with as well.

It's amazing how much of an emotional roller coaster a wake can be, A lot of people who were a lot closer to the celebrant than I was spoke about him too. The reason why I say celebrant is because I'd really like to think that he's in a better place, therefore it should be a cause for celebration. Now I know for a fact that I wasn't the only one who thought of this as well, but how do you honestly expect to be happy knowing that you'll never get to hang out with this person again, knowing that you wont hear his voice, his laugh, or see his face again? Even if you know that he is in a better place it's still undoubtedly one of the most difficult things you can do. People laughed, people cried, most of them started off with the memories they had of him, the good times. They tried their very best to keep the mood light and happy but at the end of it all, remembering all of the good things made them realize how much they would miss him.

I'm not bragging or anything but I consider myself to be a relatively okay host, but in a situation like this I don't think that really counts. I said a lot of things yesterday but I didn't want to share all the memories I had of him. So instead I'll write it down here, I know that possibly a million people could view this (I highly doubt that) but I consider this to be my own little private space where I can really say (or type) what's on my mind. So I'd like to share my own farewell for him from a non-hosting perspective.

Tito Nilo, you were one of the most generous people I've ever met and trust me I know a lot of generous people, you never brought about bad vibes whenever we were hanging out, you never expected anything in return for your generosity despite our efforts to try to repay you. You were an amazing defender for basketball, and a really awesome "bro". A lot of us looked up to you in a way that you possibly couldn't have understood. I know that you had a lot of things you still needed to do, but I'm sure that at the very end you figured out that you did so much more than what everyone expected of you.

From Basketball, to Jolibee, to fiamma, and to isshin. In the many many times that you showed your generosity to us. I hope that when I spoke for your eulogy I was somehow able to repay you for all the kindness that you showed us. I know you never asked for anything in return but I hope that you would consider what I did yesterday as a final gift to you.

Rest in peace Tito Nilo Malfatti. God speed.


  1. Hi. My husband John and I were lucky enough to have known Nilo through his friend Pete Lockwood in Louisiana. Your words are so true. he was kind and generous and always had a smile on his face. he was very special. We are very sorry for your loss. he will be missed by many.

  2. i met nilo through pete as well and he is one of the funniest and most generous people i have ever met and we shared many memories on the golf course and its just a shock for him to be gone like this but i know he is in a better place.. God bless nilo u will be dearly missed my man

  3. It's been two years...and I miss you just as much today as I did back then.

    I met Nilo over ten years ago in New Orleans and we had a wonderful friendship/love that we carried for each other then and I still do now.

    This day will forever be "the day I lost the love of my life".
    I will always believe your words to me "somewhere out there, someone is always thinking about you" - and I now think of you my friend.

    Forever in my heart.
    Always on my mind.